There’s been much discussion in the legal industry lately about female- and family-friendly workplaces. Working Mother came out with its 2019 ranking of U.S. law firms that “utilized best practices to recruit, retain, promote and develop women lawyers.” The magazine identified 60 law firms where women make up at least 37% of new equity partners. These firms offer extended parental leave benefits, and many include reimbursements for egg-freezing and fertility treatments.

That’s great—on paper. But in my experience as a law firm associate and now as a recruiter, saying you’re female- and family-friendly doesn’t mean much if it’s not ingrained in your firm’s culture.