Years ago, I spent time with a therapist who asked, “What do you want to be, Jim?” This question usually flummoxed me, but I gave it a go. “Well … I want to grow my practice to the point of having a small waiting list, and I want to make XXX dollars per year, raise my kids and I want to take a good vacation every year with my wife…”

He patiently waited me out, without the faintest hint of a smile and then said, “But, I didn’t ask what you want to do, I asked what do you want to be?”