A holiday devoted to love can be difficult if you are going through a separation or are recently divorced. Being surrounded by heart-shaped candy, love songs, and affectionate commercials can provoke a sense of loneliness, even if your separation was the right decision. It is critical to remember that it took strength to move forward with separation or divorce. No matter your relationship status, there are many nontraditional ways to enjoy Valentine’s Day that don’t involve a romantic partner. Valentine’s Day provides the opportunity to rewrite the narrative and find new ways to celebrate.

To start, it is important to understand that this day doesn’t solely revolve around romantic relationships, even though advertising agencies would have you think differently. Instead, it can be an opportunity for self-reflection and the celebration of the various forms of love in our lives. Take some time to redefine your concept of love. While romantic love may have played a significant role in the past, Valentine’s Day can become a celebration of self-love, friendship and family bonds. Take this time to appreciate the love you have for yourself and the meaningful connections with your friends and family. It can be helpful and cathartic to journal about the various forms of love in your life, which can serve as a reminder of who your support group is.