Most children live with the expectation that they’ll grow up, get married, and one day, have kids—I think that’s even a song! But, for children who realize they’re a member of the LGBTQ community, the certainty of parenthood is now in question. As it stands, many young people are nervous coming out to their parents because they fear their parents will assume they will never get to experience grandchildren. With that said, there are many paths to parenthood; science helps via surrogacy and in vitro fertilization as well as adoption.

Two states, Kansas and Oklahoma, are joining the ranks of states now depriving the LGBTQ community of adoption. Both states have passed legislation to allow faith-based adoption agencies the right to discriminate by denying same-sex couples—or indeed, any adoption candidate who doesn’t meet their religious litmus test—access to the adoption process.