After recently finishing an age discrimination trial, I was primed to read a Nov. 5, 2013, blog post by Ken Lopez, the CEO of A2L consulting, “7 Things You Never Want to Say in Court.” Here are the first four of his suggestions, followed by four of my own.

No. 1: “My client.” Banish this phrase, argues Lopez. Look at how it distances the jurors. He writes that attorneys should humanize our clients. For defense lawyers, I suggest trying this, “Make no mistake about it. The plaintiff is not accusing a company of discrimination, he is accusing [name of manager] of doing so. He did not.”