The Tiger Mom has been quiet lately, but I think I just heard her roar. If you read the Pew Research Center’s recent survey on Asian-Americans, you can’t help but feel her presence.
Pew found that Asian-Americans are doing well — very well — and that their success seems to stem in large part from the culture’s emphasis on academic achievement and hard work. According to a survey of 3,511 Asian -Americans, Pew reports:
"Asian Americans are the highest-income, best-educated and fastest-growing racial group in the United States. They are more satisfied than the general public with their lives, finances, and the direction of the country, and they place more value than other Americans do on marriage, ­parenthood, hard work, and career success."
So the Tiger Mom was right: Sitting on your kids to make high grades and denying them ­frivolities like sleepovers will make them more successful — and contented — in the long run. So take that, all you let-your-kids-be-free types!
Here are the specific findings:
• Asian-Americans are better educated and wealthier. They exceed all U.S. adults in ­attaining a college degree (49 percent vs. 28 percent), median annual household income ($66,000 vs. $49,800) and median household wealth ($83,500 vs. $68,529).
• They are "more satisfied" than the general public with their lives overall (82 vs. 75 percent), their personal finances (51 vs. 35 percent) and the general direction of the country (43 vs. 21 percent).
• They have a strong work ethic — a "pervasive belief in the rewards of hard work." About seven in 10 (69 percent) believe that people can get ahead if they work hard. (Only 58 percent of Americans overall share that view.)
• Their kids are under pressure. Thirty -nine percent of Asian-Americans also think they put too much pressure on children to succeed. (Six in 10 Asian-Americans say American parents put too little pressure on their kids.)
• Discrimination is not a big deal. Only 13 percent call it a major problem, while 48 percent identify it as "minor" and 35 percent say it’s "not a problem."
I must say I got a chuckle that almost 40 percent of Asian-Americans thought that they put too much pressure on kids — while, at the same time, a sizable portion thought that most Americans don’t apply enough pressure. As an Asian-American parent myself, I can tell you I’m a bit schizoid on the issue. You don’t want to be called a "Tiger Mom," but you don’t want to be labeled a laid-back "Panda" mom, either.
In any case, I’m surprised how optimistic this report is. I’m especially astonished that the vast majority of Asian -Americans view discrimination as a minor or nonexistent problem for ­themselves. Tell me what you think of this Pew study. Are Asian-Americans as successful, happy and in ­control of their destinies as the report suggests?